How to Get a Gemini Man to Chase You: 22 Dos and Don’ts

Crushing on a Gemini guy but not sure how to entice him?

I have one word for you: Mental stimulation.

OK, that was two words.

If you can appeal to a Gemini man’s insatiable curiosity and match your intellectual skills against his, he’ll be all over you.

Here’s how to get a Gemini man to chase you—and common traps that wreck your chances.

How to Get a Gemini Man to Chase You

If you want a Gemini man to chase you, the trick is to stand out—grab his attention first.

Once you have his attention, sustain it by building a strong mental connection with him.

Intimidated?

Don’t worry!

I’ve laid out steps on how to do this below.

Gemini is a sign I’m personally very familiar with, having once almost married a Gemini man and having had many Gemini friends in my life.

Let me show you what I’ve learned.

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Confidence

How do you make a Gemini man notice you in a crowded room?

The first detail he’ll pick up on is your attitude.

Make it a confident one.

He’ll zero in not on the hottest or most scantily clad woman in the room, but the quietly confident one.

A woman who walks tall with her shoulders back and her chin up.

She looks mysterious and cool sitting alone sipping her drink, comfortable in her own skin.

Not nervously looking around for her friends or for someone to come save her.

It’s an “IDGAF, I’m here for me” vibe.

Look at Tom Holland, a famous Gemini actor.

He’s engaged to Zendaya, one of the most confident, self-possessed baddies of Hollywood.

No surprises there.

• Pro Tip: How do you show off your amazing self-confidence to a Gemini man? Like yourself.
• Enjoy yourself without seeming like you’re worrying what other people think. Gemini men pick up on that energy and get sucked in.

Mentally Stimulate Him

When a Gemini man starts chatting you up, it’s time to impress him with your verbal prowess.

Geminis need tons of mental stimulation.

They’re lovers of knowledge and know a little bit about everything.

First of all, be chatty. Be talkative.

Be witty.

Banter with him.

Ask questions that get his mental gears turning.

While a Gemini man can talk a mile a minute, it’s important not to remain silent while he does his verbal acrobatics.

He wants a partner who can add to the conversation and go back and forth with him.

He’ll make sure it’s never a dull moment, but you’ve got to keep up.

• Pro Tip: If you can, prep a topic of conversation in advance to deep-dive into.
• Say he’s an art buff. Find out what style he’s into. Do some research on its history and notable artists.
• Tell him what you learned the next time you see him. He’ll be honored that you gave his interests that kind of time and attention and eager to discuss them with you.

Humor Him (Be Funny)

Laughter is the best medicine, and it’s also a Gemini’s aphrodisiac.

He lives for the perfect moment to deliver a punchline he’s been scheming all day.

If you can make him snort-laugh, he’ll be devoted to you.

An ideal date for a Gemini man is one-upping each other’s jokes until someone is shooting their drink out of their nose.

• Pro Tip: A Gemini man appreciates humor that’s witty and has some wordplay, puns and double entendres.
• Gemini guys also laugh at the absurd, so make sure to send hilarious memes.
• Or invite him over to watch some absurdist skit comedy masterpieces like Monty Python, The Kids in the Hall and I Think You Should Leave With Tom Robinson.

Be Different

If you want a Gemini man, get ready for some surprises.

He loves whatever is novel and unexpected.

You could show up to date #2 with a completely different haircut, or your hair dyed a different color, and he would be wowed.

It’s like getting to know this whole new person again, and he is here for it.

There are plenty of ways to keep things interesting for a Gemini man if you get creative.

• Pro Tip: Instead of a dinner date, go on a haunted tour of the city.
• Or try something new and daring together, like one of those drawing classes where you draw people posing naked.

Be Spontaneous

Loyal to your routines? Try to deviate a bit.

Be open to the Gemini man’s spontaneous suggestions when he texts you on a Thursday night asking if you’re up for an adventure.

Keeping each other guessing is fun and sexy for Geminis.

• Pro Tip: After dinner, challenge him to who can invent the most delicious ice cream sundae, BUT you have to use at least one weird ingredient.
• Winner buys the meal on the next date.

FLIRT!

You need flirting game for a Gemini man’s attention.

He likes coy, lighthearted flirting.

He also likes some light teasing here and there, if you can do it in an endearing way.

• Pro Tip: Gemini men like ‘em cheeky. Flirt with clever retorts.
• Make saucy comments and smile devilishly.

Get Things Moving Over Text

It can be hard to be super direct with a bold Gemini man in person, though he likes that sort of thing.

A way around this is to do it over text.

Send him a flirtatious text that shows you want to heat things up.

Make it amusing to him. It should be frisky and a little bit daring.

• Pro Tip: Try this – “Should I ask you out or pretend to be shy?” The message is loud and clear, yet invites some playful commentary.
• It’s all a mental game for him. If you can get into it with him, you’ll both win.

Admire Him a Little

Geminis are proud of their intelligence and their achievements.

They don’t need you to fawn all over them, but they do like it when they feel recognized for being awesome.

Stroke his ego just a little bit.

However, do make sure your compliments are genuine.

Geminis are very good at seeing through flattery.

The key is to make him feel a bit special.

• Pro Tip: Compliment any talents he’s cultivated or something the Gemini man seems to value.
• If he’s an avid reader, tell him how you look up to him for putting down the social media and picking up a book instead. It’s flattering but not fake-sounding.

Be Flexible

If it’s one thing Geminis don’t like, it’s feeling like a slave to a schedule.

Geminis work well with someone who gives them the freedom to change their minds.

You might get a text from your Gemini guy the day before you had plans to hang out saying he just couldn’t pass up a chance to see his buddy’s band play.

Take this graciously. Don’t hold it against him.

You have to be flexible to be with a Gemini man.

If he likes you, he’s not going to just blow you off.

• Pro Tip: Show him that you have enough of your own life that you’re not fretting over it when plans change.
• This will ease his mind and encourage him to call you up to accompany him the next time he wants to paint the town red.

Highlight Your Hobbies and Interests

A Gemini man is attracted to a woman with her own unique interests.

If you taxidermy road kill for fun, the Gemini man will find that wonderfully wacky.

If you’re into renaissance fairs, he may invite you to one.

Geminis gravitate towards whatever is unfamiliar to them.

But also, Geminis are lifelong hobbyists.

They love collecting hobbies like Pokemon cards.

Gemini rules the hands, and they’re especially fond of activities that involve manual dexterity, craftsmanship, writing—whatever keeps their hands busy.

It’s also the mental stimulation of discovering new passions that turns a Gemini man on.

He may not make your hobbies his, but he’ll damn sure devour all info he can get on them.

It’s exciting for him to explore something different.

• Pro Tip: Ask the Gemini man about his hobbies, too.
• Ask him for demonstrations. This shows that you’re actually interested in finding out, and it helps him to bond with you over something he enjoys.

Talk About Everything Under the Sun

You might want to brush up on current events and a broad array of topics if you’re trying to catch a Gemini man’s attention.

A Gemini loves chit-chatting about everything.

And I mean everything.

He will lead you around in a conversation that jumps from celebrity weddings, to which era has the best rock bands, to the history of capitalistic governments, to dirty jokes.

I kid you not.

He’ll be random. Stay with him.

If you love to gab and you’re game to go down any path—

If not topic is too taboo for you—

Then you’ll have the Gemini man eating out of your hand.

• Pro Tip: Lull in the conversation? Hit him with a random, amusing fact.
• Or ask him to tell you one. He’d be delighted to.

Get Controversial

Gemini men don’t want nice.

They don’t want rule followers.

They thrive on hot takes and controversial views. 

They don’t mind if you ruffle their friends’ feathers a little bit.

It’s all in good fun.

I’m not saying to be mean or hateful. Just be a little impish.

A Gemini man is the type to give a cat one quick backwards pet to see what it does.

Harness that energy.

He’ll think it’s delightful that you’re not afraid to “go there” sometimes.

At least it makes for stimulating conversation. 

• Pro Tip: Get in the devil’s advocate mind frame. Gemini men will play one a lot, so don’t take them too seriously.
• Go with it when he says something wild like it’s totally natural. He’ll get a kick out of you playing along.

Be Mysterious

Clever Geminis are as curious as cats.

They’ll chase what they haven’t quite figured out yet.

While you don’t want to come across as closed off, you do want to be coy.

And ever so vague.

For example, if he asks where you’re from, you can say, “Can you tell? Guess.”

• Pro Tip: If you’re deep into a conversation and it’s getting late, give him a little cliffhanger.
• Leave it on an exciting note and say, “I’ll tell you next time we meet.”
• Just smile as he tries to pry it out of you, make a graceful exit and let him think about you and your secrets all night long.

Don’t “Yes” Him to Death

Don’t go along with everything he says because you were taught that nobody likes a naysayer.

This is Gemini we’re dealing with, one of the most brilliant minds of the zodiac.

Arguing is foreplay for him.

For real though, Gemini guys truly enjoy getting a different point of view.

It’s easy for them to run intellectual circles around most anybody.

But this gets ho-hum when nobody challenges them.

So make him think.

• Pro Tip: State your opinions. Stand by them.
• Don’t worry if you’re saying the total opposite of what he’s saying. He loves it. Difference is the spice of life for Geminis.

Bring Out Your Inner Child

At heart, a Gemini man is really just a big kid.

He’s playful and retains his youthful spirit well into old age.

That’s what’s magical about Geminis.

To get a Gemini man to chase you, reflect his youthful energy.

Be a big kid yourself.

Don’t take yourself too seriously.

Laugh at yourselves. Be lighthearted together. Goof around.

• Pro Tip: Surprise him with a water gun on a hot summer night. Dare him to meet you at the golf course for a watery duel.
• That’s the kind of carefree attitude a Gemini man falls in love with immediately.

Be Classy

The woman a Gemini man wants to chase is classy.

Not uptight—but she puts out a certain regal air out into the world.

Just because a Gemini man’s dream woman gets her hands dirty doesn’t mean she isn’t worldly and sophisticated.

Geminis are dualistic in nature.

They are the twins.

They have two sides to their personalities, and they enjoy some dualistic qualities in a partner.

Such as being able to be silly and mischievous at one moment, then go to an elegant dinner party with him.

Be able to switch it up.

Have versatility.

This is what drives him wild.

• Pro Tip: Mix high-brow and low-brow together. Like going to a dive bar after the fancy restaurant. Or drinking champagne while playing video games.

Make Him Work for It

You never want to deliver yourself to a Gemini man like a present.

He has to know he’s earning a place in your heart.

It should be his reward for being so charming and awesome at courting you to keep getting another date with you.

A bit of space while giving him little doses of your infectious charm will have him dying to go out with you again.

And should things go well and a relationship could really happen between you, wait until he’s said he wants to be exclusive with you.

Keep him on his toes!

• Pro Tip: Keep your own schedule.
• Don’t sleep at his place habitually like you live there.
• A Gemini man wants to keep up the chase all the way to the end. It’s exhilarating for him.

What You Should Not Do

Be Needy

Gemini males need space.

Some absence makes their hearts grow fonder.

If you’re constantly around with nothing to do text him, what’s there to chase?

Go on and fill up your weekend plans.

Tell the Gemini man you can pencil him next Friday because this Friday you’re going out with the ladies.

Don’t leave him hanging for too long or he’s prone to forgetting.

Geminis do have short attention spans, you know.

But it’s important to show that you’re independent and you don’t need him to make your life exciting.

You’ve got your own adventures.

He’ll be thrilled to hear about them later.

Insult Him

While it’s great to have a good banter going with a Gemini man, you don’t want to get into heavy roasting.

He likes a bit of teasing as long as it’s affectionate and doesn’t deliver any low blows.

One thing that he would hate is to be ridiculed for his ideas.

He likes some healthy debate, not an intellectual smackdown.

Just remember: If he’s smiling and laughing and not getting defensive, you should be all good.

Balance out any teasing you deliver with compliments and testaments to your admiration of him.

Be Easily Offended

Gemini men say a lot of out of pocket things.

If you can roll with it, you’ll be doing just fine.

But if you’re easily offended, this man’s style might not be to your taste.

He’s looking for someone who is able to take him with a grain of salt and call him on his bull with a laugh and a wink.

Bore Him

The last thing you want to do is bore a Gemini man.

That’s why I always recommend switching it up on him randomly.

Boredom is the kiss of death in Gemini courtships.

The God’s honest truth is, it does take a certain amount of energy and enthusiasm to keep a Gemini man interested.

But that’s why fire signs and other air signs are usually the best matches for Geminis.

Or those with heavy fire and air placements in their birth charts.

If you’re a water sign or an earth sign, don’t give up hope.

Lean on your mysteriousness and your differences to stir up the Gemini’s imagination. 

Plan Too Far Ahead

Who knows what the future holds?

Certainly not the Gemini man, and he likes it that way.

If you want him to pursue you with vigor, allow him to live in the moment.

Take things one day at a time.

Not because you’re trying to move slowly and cautiously, but because trying to lock it down too fast is going to make him pull back.

Do you want to be upfront with your intentions with the Gemini man?

Oh, certainly.

But I would avoid having the “What are we?” talk with a Gemini man you’re trying to seduce.

He’ll be more than happy to go deeper with you when it feels right, as long as he doesn’t feel forced.

FAQ About Dating Gemini Men

What kind of woman is a Gemini man attracted to?

A Gemini man is attracted to a woman who is young at heart.

You must be fun to be around and have a positive, adventurous attitude.

He doesn’t need to be with the prom queen.

But he does need to be with a woman who stimulates his intellectual side.

That’s the main thing.

How do you make a Gemini man obsessed with you?

If you want a Gemini man to be obsessed with you, the simplest answer is to be nonstop interesting.

Be clever and show off all the things that make you unique and special.

Also, don’t be overly available.

Don’t reply to his texts like clockwork—save a little mystery sometimes and get back to him at your convenience.

How do you keep a Gemini man hooked?

By never letting him get bored.

Keep surprising him with what you do and say.

The sheer fact that he can’t predict your next move is going to make you the center of his fantasies.

What turns Gemini men on?

Not to be too obvious here, but mental stimulation turns Gemini men on.

If you’ve been following along, you probably could have guessed that already!

But it’s totally true.

Banter, dirty talking, acting out various scenes and talking about your fantasies turn them on.

How to win a Gemini man’s heart?

Being friends as well as smokin’ hot lovers is how to win a Gemini man’s heart.

He needs that amicable connection just as much as the sexual one.

Where the two of you spend hours making each other giggle in your underwear.

Where you keep doing childish things together and don’t fall prey to repetitive routines and romantic ruts.

How to tell a Gemini man is falling for you?

He becomes very sweet and genuine with you.

He’ll still tease you from time to time, but he’ll also stare at you with that adoring look in his eyes.

The biggest contrast to his normal personality is the mushiness.

Yes, Gemini men get mushy when they’re in love!

If you’re getting called sweet nicknames, he’s giving you tons of affection and you feel like you’re slightly being put on a pedestal, he’s in love.

How to make a Gemini man miss you like crazy?

Through great conversation.

A Gemini man misses an ex with whom he could talk for hours and hours.

If you want him to miss you, reach out with a text he simply must reply to.

It might be a crazy joke or a selfie with a text that says, “Guess what I’m doing?”

Be creative.

He’ll miss you if you get his mind working.