Is it possible?
Can you even get a feral Gemini man to fall in love and be faithful to you?
Believe it or not, Geminis are not so hard to love and be loved by.
But it does take an understanding of their contradictory natures. How they function in a relationship and what they want can be surprising.
This is your guide to a Gemini man’s secret heart.
Use the tips in it to help you nurture a love that’s strong, deep and long-lasting between you.
What Makes a Gemini Man Fall in Love With You?
Falling in love for a Gemini man is not about making each other jealous.
It isn’t about being fearful of losing you.
On the contrary, love for a Gemini man is about companionship.
True companionship.
Something women need to understand is that earning the love and loyalty of a Gemini takes courage.
It takes courage because there is a certain amount of letting go that you’ll need to do.
Letting go, for example, of the idea that relationships need to be predictable.
Gemini is an air sign, and air can only be contained to a certain extent.
Capturing his heart means being able to go with the flow.
Gemini, a Mercury-ruled sign, refuses to stand still.
You must be flexible.
And intellectually curious.
This is how Gemini men fall in love.
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Never-Ending Intellectual Intrigue
Love to a Gemini man is communication.
He needs a strong mental connection to love someone and stay madly in love.
If you’re in a relationship with a Gemini man, there’s probably hardly a silent moment between you.
He wants to share his thoughts with you and for you to share yours with him.
Not sometimes. All the time!
Don’t hold back your opinions, no matter how different they are from the Gemini man’s.
New ideas invigorate him, and they don’t spring up in an echo chamber.
Read up on art, science and current news topics. Share what you learn with your Gemini man.
Ask him philosophical questions.
The unanswerable, mind-bending kind.
Have meandering conversations.
A Gemini man falls for a woman with a good brain, a curiosity that rivals his and a desire to always be learning.
Easing the Gemini Man’s Fear of “Stuckness”
A Gemini man’s worst nightmare is getting stuck.
Stuck in a rut, stuck in a boring job, stuck in a lifeless relationship.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s pretty hard for this to happen to a Gemini man since he’s free-floating like a feather in the wind.
But the idea of having no choices, no freedoms and nowhere to turn makes his blood run cold.
All this sounds a bit like he’s afraid of commitment, doesn’t it?
But that’s not a fair judgment about a Gemini man.
In actuality, he’s happy to commit to someone, as long as they don’t make it feel so…commitment-y.
The relationship needs to have twists and turns like a good book.
Not in a toxic way—I mean like coming home with a new hobby to try together.
Charting new courses together.
Treating life as a continual learning opportunity and taking on new challenges and adventures.
Stagnation is death for Geminis.
He falls in love with someone whose sole goal isn’t to settle down, but to grow with their partner.
Spontaneity
A great way to combat “stuckness” with a Gemini man in a relationship is to spice it up with spontaneous gifts and weekend trips.
Pop in to the Gemini man’s work with a little something for him to get him through the work day.
Even if it’s just the Sudoku from the newspaper to take the edge off the monotony.
If every weekend looks about the same, there’s no better time to plan an unexpected mini vacation.
There’s no rule that says you have to go far or spend a lot of money.
As long as it’s different.
There are so many options:
Camping, hiking, festivals, sightseeing, museums.
Nor does it have to be heart-pumping or anything wild and crazy (unless you’re up for that!).
Successful relationships as well as marriages with Gemini men regularly escape routine.
They inject freshness and newness into each day.
Team Mentality
One isn’t a Gemini man’s favorite number. Two is.
He’s a social butterfly, not a loner.
He dreams of having his partner at his side to conquer the world as a dynamic duo.
Though Geminis are pot stirrers who get a reputation for not working well with others, there is one person they want to do everything with:
Their partner.
They don’t care what the world thinks of them if their partner is by their side, rooting for them.
If you want to nourish a Gemini man’s love for you, it’s important to start thinking in terms of what you can accomplish together.
How you can support one another.
What are his goals?
What are yours?
Share them.
Talk out loud about how you can support each other in achieving them.
Check in with each other.
Offer help and cheer him on, regardless of how epic his dreams are.
Feeling truly supported and encouraged makes him loyal to you.
Independence
Dating a Gemini man means celebrating your independence too.
It means being better together, but as two already whole individuals.
A Gemini man wants not to blend into his significant other, but to complement each other through difference.
You like what you like; he likes what he likes.
You’re both more interesting that way, as far as he’s concerned.
He loves it when you make a plan to visit your friends from college over the weekend while he puts together the raised garden bed he’s been plotting.
It’s beautiful to him to be with someone without losing your identity.
Every little hobby, every little quirk of yours is memorable to him.
He falls in love with the things that make you, you.
Don’t lose that in order to try to please the Gemini man.
He doesn’t want you to be more like him.
He wants to see you flourish.
When You’re Really Good and Impressive at Something
Everyone has their thing.
The thing that they really love doing and spent their youth honing and getting good at.
Maybe you’re a writer, an artist or a soup kitchen volunteer.
Maybe you’re passionate about climate activism or you’re a coder extraordinaire.
Whatever it is, let the Gemini man see you in action.
When he sees how immersed you are in it, how much time you’ve dedicated to developing a skill, talent or goal, he’ll be floored.
Gemini men fall for women who are zealous about something.
It’s interesting to them.
Geminis are jacks of all trades, masters of none.
To watch you be deeply dedicated to something is motivating to them.
It grounds them.
They love to look up to their partner.
This is the sincerest form of a compliment from a Gemini man and a real symbol of his adoration.
Maintaining a Solid Friendship
Gemini men are fans of dating their best female friend because that would give them the perfect relationship.
They like blurred boundaries between friendship and lovers.
It’s the best of both worlds.
A Gemini man falls in love with a woman who can hang with him and his buddies.
He wants to be with someone who likes chilling and eating Doritos as much as getting all gussied up to go out to a restaurant.
If he can’t shoot the breeze with you and enjoy some non-intimate, non-serious conversations with you, it’s going to put a damper on it for him.
Keep in mind that Gemini is a mutable sign, a sign of dualism.
Geminis need two things at once:
Your friendship and your sexual passion.
Support and independence.
When you can broaden your horizons and be more than one thing to and with the Gemini man, it gives him the freedom he’s always searching for.
But this isn’t freedom from you.
It’s the freedom to be himself with you.
In all his contradictory glory.
Always Making It Feel Like the Beginning
You know that feeling of pure excitement and anticipation you get when you spend time with someone you’re really into?
That’s what the Gemini man wants to come back to months, even years into a relationship.
He wants to fall for someone who still makes him feel giddy with a cheeky little text.
Who keeps a playful spirit and engages the Gemini’s childlike nature with games, silliness and banter.
These things don’t have to end.
In fact, they’re part of a meaningful relationship to a Gemini man.
He’ll fall for a woman who’s just as fun and lighthearted on day 100 as on day 1.
Being OK With His Flakiness
It’s just a fact of life that Geminis are flaky.
They have trouble making up their minds.
Especially when a decision is going to have a big impact on their lives, their careers and yes, their relationships.
But this is why it’s a challenge to date a Gemini man.
Because you won’t know where it’s going at first.
You will have to rely on your intuition that he digs your company and he wants to be with you.
Until he’s ready to utter the word “commitment.”
Even within a committed relationship, a Gemini man can display some superb vacillation.
He’ll change his mind about whether he wants to switch jobs or climb the corporate ranks.
He’ll get new hobbies monthly, so you have a budget for that.
He will talk a big talk about plans that he ends up abandoning without another word about them.
This is part of being a Gemini.
It’s not wrong. It’s not bad.
It’s simply one of the expressions of the boundless, chaotic energy that lives within the core of the Gemini archetype.
Knowing and accepting this is the secret of being with a Gemini man.
Loving the Gemini as he is, not in spite of his so-called flaws, will make him dedicated to you forever.
FAQ: Dating Gemini Men
How to know if a Gemini man is in love with you?
If a Gemini man is in love with you, he’ll show you through how much he enjoys talking to you and being with you.
Gemini men highly value their independence.
Wanting to be around you all the time without caring if it seems clingy is a surefire sign that a Gemini man loves you.
He’ll be constantly communicating with you.
Texting to see what you’re up to, asking for your opinions on things and just calling to hear your voice.
It’s obvious that you’re always on the Gemini’s mind.
He doesn’t try to hide it.
How does a Gemini man test a woman?
A Gemini man has a variety of ways to test you.
He will be asking you what seem like odd or strangely specific questions.
These are to get a sense of who you are and if you have that brain connection with him.
Then there’s the test where he waits for you to reach out to him.
How much do you want to see him again?
Would you be brave and ask him out?
I wrote about some common Gemini man tests if you want to check them out.
How to make a Gemini man chase you?
Be confident.
Own your individuality and what makes you unique.
Draw him to you through your confidence and excellent conversational skills.
Verbally spar with him.
Joke around, get into deep topics, be all over the board in a conversation.
He’ll be so intrigued by you he’ll have to chase you.
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How to make a Gemini guy obsessed with you?
A mixture of a fun personality, a sense of adventure and a dash of mysteriousness will make a Gemini man obsessed.
He gets addicted to someone who can always surprise him.
Life is full of possibilities.
Someone who can really capture that sentiment is irresistible to him.
How do you win a Gemini man’s heart?
You win a Gemini man’s heart by forging a mental connection with him as well as a sense of companionship.
He has to feel like underneath it all, you’re the best of friends.
This is more important to him than instant passion and sexual fire.
He has to truly like hanging out with you.
You have to be his homie.
His heart comes along with his realization that you’re his favorite person to do everything with.
What turns Gemini men on?
Talk, talk, talk, baby!
Gemini men are turned on by sharp, witty conversation.
Between the sheets they’re turned on by dirty talking.
They like role playing and anything that creates a story line.
They’re very creative and intelligent, so their minds are their biggest erogenous zone.
What kind of woman is a Gemini man attracted to?
A Gemini man’s dream girl is a little bit quirky.
She’s playful and never dull to talk to.
And she’s different in some way.
She always keeps him guessing.
His dream woman is independent.
She has her own life and her own hobbies.
She fascinates the Gemini man with her inner strength and dedication to her passions.
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