If a Cancer man likes you, you’re going to have to follow his subtle clues like a Sherlock Holmes of romance.
It won’t necessarily be easy to tell at first, because Cancers are guarded…and shy.
But there are unmistakable signs.
Here’s how to know if a Cancer man likes you:
- His go-to move is to create an emotional connection with you. This water sign feels more comfortable and adept in emotional waters. He’ll try to create a safe space for you to share your feelings and bond.
- He becomes more open and animated behind closed doors. The rest of the world will continue to get his poker face, but you’ll see the true goofball sweetheart he is when you’re one-on-one.
- He’s responsive. He’s easy to reach and communicates with you a ton. He engages with you enthusiastically every time you give him attention.
- He’s sensitive to your energy and mirrors it. Cancers are attuned to others’ emotional states and when they’re interested in you, they focus this superpower on you to match your energy and be on your level each and every moment.
- The biggest clues are still subtle and indirect. A Cancer man might not say he’s got a thing for you outright, but he’ll say you’re the type of girl he usually goes for.
Trust me. I’m a Cancer so I know what I’m talking about.
I’m detailing 20 of the biggest signs a Cancer man likes you in this guide, as well as what to do when a Cancer man is into you and how to ask him out.
(Really, you can just do that??)
(YES!!)
Let’s start with what you need to know to suss out his feelings about you.
How to Know If a Cancer Man Likes You
If a Cancer man likes you, he’ll put himself out there subtly, not coming on too strong or too obviously.
He’ll be around and available, but he’ll only drop hints about liking you. He’ll compliment you so slyly, it’ll take you the rest of the evening to figure out he was calling you gorgeous.
Where other men might jump on the chance to be physical with you, he’ll keep respectful boundaries.
But don’t let this fool you!
Cancers are understated, so you need to tease out his true feelings, whether he’s attracted to you or thinks of you as a friend.
Use these tips I’ve put together as your guide so you know what the deal is without having to confront him (which he’d hate).
Read Next: 20 Clear Signs a Cancer Man Has Feelings for You
He Waits Until You’re Alone to Connect With You
A Cancer man who likes you will wait until you’re not surrounded by people to approach you.
He needs a clear shot to talk to you without having to worry about you being distracted by other hot, equally available men.
Or by literally anything.
Cancers feel exposed when there are too many people around. They don’t like the idea of onlookers gawking while they hit on you.
It just makes them squirmy.
Plus, they really want to be their fun, silly selves with you, which they can’t be with all the pressure of being watched.
In fact, your Cancer man is more likely to go quiet if there’s another person around, even if he’s usually more outspoken when it’s just you two.
Not infrequently, women think Cancer men are aloof. But really, it’s just nervousness.
All Cancer guys want is a good hour of your time to find out what your favorite books are, what you like to eat and whether you’re into Pedro Pascal soft boy energy.
He Gets Bashful Around You
Maybe Cancer men don’t like the world knowing when they’re into someone, but unfortunately for them, they’re just not good at hiding it.
Anyone with eyeballs could tell that the Cancer man likes you. Seriously, ask your friends to watch his reaction when you use your soft voice to talk to him.
Twenty bucks says he’ll blush and start sweating. He may go tongue-tied or lose his words.
If ever you notice that a Cancer man can speak like a normal human to everyone else but you, please relieve his suffering. Just give him your number.
He Texts You Randomly
Cancer males are the kings of the random text.
If a Cancer man wants to date you, expect him to text you out of the blue.
He won’t even have some kind of imaginative excuse, like he needs to borrow your umbrella.
He’ll just straight-up text you “Hey, how are you doing?” at 2:39 p.m.
If this happens, you’ve got to know he’s putting himself out there. He’s working hard, building that bridge between you.
He’s Where You Are
Another interesting habit of Cancer men with crushes is that before they even think about asking you out, they lay the groundwork by showing up where you hang out.
They need some level of familiarity with you first. This is why it’s so common for Cancers to slide into relationships after starting with friendship.
If you clicked with a Cancer man on your Wednesday night gym routine and he says he normally goes on Tuesdays, don’t be surprised if he switches to Tuesday nights from here on out.
Huge, unmistakable sign right there.
But it’s just a coincidence, you might think. Right?!
Well, Cancers are sneaky like that—they like to appear as if they’re not desperate while at the same time positioning themselves perfectly to be in your space.
Then they can devise a whole plan to put the charm on you.
He’s Always Trying to Talk to You
Cancers easily become infatuated with someone they’re attracted to.
As such, they like to be around you and talk to you all the time.
Whether it’s texting you or chatting you up at work, the Cancer male will attempt to be in touch with you as much as possible.
If he can’t be attached at your hip, he’ll take being attached to you through his phone.
An important tip: What he talks to you about is less important than the frequency with which he communicates with you.
Just keep that in mind.
He’s Jollier Around You
While you’ll usually see the Cancerian being on the subdued side around other people, he’ll become more animated and excitable when he’s talking to you.
He’ll smile constantly and laugh a lot.
You’ll feel like you’re the funniest, coolest person he’s ever met the way he gets all amped up around you.
He Talks About Private Stuff
When a Cancer shares personal information with you, you’re either his therapist or his crush.
Cancer men default to creating an intimate atmosphere with someone they’re interested in.
They’ll skip past small talk as quickly as they can.
And while they may not share their deep, dark secrets, they’ll share enough that you’ll probably think, “Wow, this person is very open.”
And you’d be very wrong!
Cancers are not open in general—they choose to open up to someone who is important to them.
Someone they’d like an emotional connection with.
Divulging his body insecurities or the thing that made him cry last week is a HUGE signal that he likes you.
Even small stuff like sharing childhood memories and explaining his thought processes says a lot.
You may think it’s nothing, but he doesn’t waste time revealing himself to people he keeps at a polite distance.
Which is most everyone.
He Wants to Help You
From carrying your shopping bags to fixing your busted bike wheel, the Cancer male is eager to put himself to work in service of the one he adores.
There’s no project too daunting.
No yard work too grueling that you can’t ask a Cancer man with a thing for you to help you on.
For many Cancers, acts of service is a love language they’re fluent in.
If you’re the do-it-yourself type who never asks for help, be prepared to fend off offers left and right from the Cancer man.
He Gives Indirect Hints
Compliments alone won’t tell you if a Cancer man likes you.
You have to fill in the gaps of what he doesn’t say.
The thing you have to understand about Cancers is that they’re indirect communicators.
If they really want you to know something, they’ll use roundabout ways to imply it, making you connect the dots.
It’s just how they are.
For instance, if you’re a short brunette, he’ll claim to love short brunettes (which translates to “You’re my type.”).
When you tell him you’re going out later tonight, he’ll ask who the lucky guy is that you’re meeting. (He hopes you’ll say you’re single.)
Comments like these are more powerful than compliments.
They’re the Cancer guy’s way of letting you know that he’s interested and he’s feeling the situation out to see if you’re interested back.
He’s a Phenomenal Listener
Cancers are known to be great listeners. They pride themselves on being the emotional support person of the friend group.
But they’ll go out of their way to offer this service to you if you make their heart go all a-flutter.
They’ll let you know they’re your man any time you need someone to talk to. And they will be there for you.
At 3 a.m. on a Sunday.
They’ll listen for hours with their full attention without judging or trying to offer you annoying advice.
Just empathy and a pair of arms to hold you.
Speaking of which…
The Hugging
Cancers are similar to Tauruses in the way that physical touch is big with them.
Hugs are definitely a way for them to show their interest and attraction to you.
Not just quick, light hugging, but tight, full-bodied squeezes.
There’s no better hugger than a Cancer, except maybe a Taurus.
If a Cancer man keeps trying to squeeze you, that’s basically a big neon sign.
Trust me, Cancers don’t want to touch people they’re not into.
They’re very sensitive sorts, and touch carries so much meaning and stimulation for them that they tend to avoid it with people who don’t arouse their interest and emotions.
He Suggests a Date Indirectly
Because Cancer men are deathly afraid of rejection, they’ll pretty much never directly suggest spending time together.
But indirectly? That’s much easier for them.
A Cancer man will talk about how boring his Friday night is going to be at home, alone with his cat.
This is the way that he’s mastered getting you to say, “Why don’t we chill Friday night?”
Oh, you’re free Friday? That’s great news! And do you like food? He likes Italian food.
What’s that you say? You love Italian food too? You know a good place with truffle risotto?
And you’d love to go with the Cancer man there?
Well, he’d be delighted to pick you up at 7.
He’s Cautious
The Cancer man who likes you will be making consistent efforts to get close to you.
But, this does not mean that he’ll be throwing himself at you.
He might not even send you any type of sexual signals at all, at least not any that are really clear.
Cancer men respect you and don’t want to make you uncomfortable.
But they also don’t want to ruin a good thing by jumping all over you.
As it happens, some women start to question how the Cancer man really feels about them, no matter how much attention he gives them.
But do yourself a favor. Forget his lack of attempts to make out with you and instead focus on everything else he does to show that he’s interested in you.
Eventually he’ll make a move, especially if you show that you’re open to it.
He’s Attuned to Your Energy and Body Language
Cancers are emotional chameleons.
They can feel your energy and will automatically adjust to your mood.
If you’re feeling upbeat and adventurous, the Cancer man will follow your lead and be down for anything.
You may think you’re hiding your bad mood well, but not from the Cancer man. He’ll immediately go into emotional support mode.
If you’re not feeling the vibe at a party you were obligated to make an appearance at, he’ll offer to create a distraction for you to escape and walk you home.
And if you’re attracted to him, he’ll be able to sense that too—he’ll double up on his efforts to get to know you and create opportunities to hang out.
As a cardinal sign, Cancer initiates things. Also a water sign, they’re emotional and intuitive.
This is why Cancers take the initiative based on feeling and intuition.
It’s also why Cancer males seem to know the exact right moment to make a move on you.
He Always Wants to Be Around You
If a Cancer man is interested in dating you, he won’t turn down a single opportunity to be near you.
His mouth will say “Yes” when you ask him to help you move house before his brain can even catch up and think.
No matter how busy he is, his schedule will clear out when you need a friendly face or a helping hand.
Cancers don’t play hard to get very well, even if in their minds they’d like to be more mysterious.
He Acts Hurt If You Talk About Other Guys
Jealous? A Cancer man?
He may not like to admit it, but he hates competition.
He gets dejected when you’re giving affection elsewhere.
You can feel the wind being sucked out of his sails the moment you mention how great your friend Pierre is, and even though it was complicated when you dated, you’re glad you’re so close to him now.
This would be tough for a sensitive Crab to hear.
At all times, subjects involving other guys should be approached with clarity and caution so that he doesn’t misunderstand.
And definitely never bring a guy up just to make him jealous, because he might disappear after that.
He’s Your Hype Man
You cannot find a bigger fan of yours than a Cancer who thinks you’re a cutie.
Cancers are some of the most supportive people, both emotionally and in very practical ways.
If the Cancerian is into you, you absolutely cannot rag on yourself in front of him.
He’ll be quick to fire off all of the positive qualities you have and make you feel like you could do anything.
It’s not all talk, either. He believes in you.
And he wants you to see how amazing you are, because it’s a crime if you don’t.
If the Cancer man goes out of his way to raise you up and put you on your path to glory, that’s a sure sign that he digs you.
He Gives You Little Gifts
Cancers are generous souls who love taking care of people they care about.
So naturally, gift giving can be another one of their love languages.
However, if the Cancer man is into you but he isn’t really ready to spill his guts, he’ll give you little gifts. Nothing too over-the-top.
They can be as unassuming as a mocha latte from his favorite cafe. Or a mini notepad and pen to stick in your purse after you told him you’re struggling to get more organized.
Gifts he gives you will be more practical than whimsical at this stage. They aren’t your typical romantic gifts that scream “GO OUT WITH ME!”
But the fact is, his magical little pick-me-ups are designed to make you go out with him.
He Protects You from the Cold, Cruel World
Maybe because they’re so soft inside, Cancers view the world as dangerous.
And maybe they’re right sometimes. But they’ll always treat you like a Fabergé egg.
They’ll touch you with gentle hands and keep you safe, nestled in their strong, protective embrace.
Cancer men will be the first ones to text you to see if you got home safe and the last ones to leave the bar so they can make sure no one hassles you.
It may even come across as a little unnecessary. Like he’s sheltering you.
But ultimately, a Crab can’t help it.
You’ve gotten to his emotions and the thought of any harm coming to you is too much to bear.
He’s So Insanely Thoughtful
A Cancer man’s feelings about you can fly under the radar because too many women take his gestures of affection as “just being nice.”
It’s true that he’s basically the most thoughtful man in the universe, doing you favors around the clock and taking care of you in ways you didn’t think you needed.
He will preempt your needs like a psychic.
He’ll have his weekend clear because he knows you have a Monday deadline coming up and you’re going to need some support because you procrastinated all week.
Not only did he remember to ask how your Shih Tzu dog Muffles is doing after her leg surgery, but he also got a teddy bear and a get-well cake to celebrate her recovery.
He’s just the nicest guy, which is the problem—women need to realize that he’s not like this with everyone.
Body Language of a Cancer Man With a Crush
Body language of a Cancer man with a crush on you is going to be soft.
Even a 6’4” Cancer with sculpted shoulders and a powerful physique will handle you with great care.
When he touches you, he’ll do so ever so gently and appropriately.
His hands won’t travel down to your butt when he hugs you.
His touch is light yet full of feeling, lingering slightly like he doesn’t want to let you go.
But he’d never cross a line without an explicit invitation.
Any part of his body touching any part of your body will be sending chills down his spine.
If you were to absentmindedly put your elbow on his arm while driving in the car, he would leave it there, barely breathing the entire time.
If you compliment him, he might get self-conscious and run his hands through his hair while smiling awkwardly.
This is not because he didn’t like the compliment, but because you’ve put the spotlight on him.
He knows he’s going to give himself away if he reacts with too much delight.
How the Cancer Man Texts You When He Likes You
Some Cancers will text you so much your thumbs will get tired.
Others aren’t super speedy with the responses, but their texts are sincere and expressive.
If I had to make a hard and fast rule, I’d say that Cancers will only text you if they like you.
And they’ll only text you with effort and consistency if they think you’re really worth pursuing.
Put it this way:
Getting no replies from a Cancer man means he’s not at all interested.
Getting brief, undescriptive responses shows he’s trying to be polite, although he doesn’t want to make you think you have a chance with him.
But receiving in-depth replies that share something personal about him, go into an emotional topic or express eager interest in your life and your thoughts indicates that the Cancer man wants you to like him back.
More often than not, the Cancer will show his sweet side through his texts.
Asking how your day is going, sprinkling in cutesy emojis.
Don’t expect texts like “You’re hot” or “Send nudes.”
Cancers are gentlemen and they conduct themselves as such.
One thing I will say is that even if a Cancer man takes time to respond to you, it’s not because he’s nuking nachos and forgot to reply.
Quite the opposite, he’s contemplating how to reply to you so deeply that he needs more time to construct the most meaningful answers.
This is actually a huge compliment from the Cancer man because it shows he respects your intelligence and thinks you deserve a real answer, not a quick one.
What to Do When a Cancer Man Likes You
Don’t force him to tell you!
Cancers don’t want you to know what’s going on in their super fragile feelings.
They will fight you off with their big, sharp crab claw if you get too nosy and try to pry your way into their shells.
If you demand to know how they feel about you, you’re liable to get an answer that is self-protective rather than the truth.
Even if that answer is actually a lie.
Yes that’s right, a Cancer man might reflexively lie and say he’s not sure what he wants even if he secretly carries your picture in his wallet.
This is a reflex that stems from Cancers being TERRIFIED of being prematurely exposed and exploited.
So, what do you do, then?
Skip forcing him to reveal how he feels and instead just ask him out.
Seriously. Just do it.
The only caveat I’d add here is that you should be mindful of the energy with which you approach him.
If you come to him expectantly, demanding to be taken to dinner next Saturday, that might be too forward for the mild Cancer man.
(Then again, some Cancers might eat that up and lick the plate.)
Asking Him Out
Tip #1: Appeal to Feelings
The safest bet when you want to ask a Cancer man out is to mention a date in a way that has some type of emotional appeal.
Let’s say there’s this Cancer man you’ve been flirting with, but you never seem to get past that.
Gently open up the door to going out by leaning on how he makes you feel:
“I feel so good when I’m with you. If it’s OK with you, I’d like to get to know you better. Are you free to grab coffee this Saturday?”
Cancer men understand feelings.
And they like knowing they positively affect yours.
Tip #2: Consider the Relationship You Have With Him
The way you appeal to the Cancer man depends on the relationship you have and your experiences with him thus far.
What I mean by that is if you bonded over childhood traumas at a party one night, factor that in.
Make a stronger emotional appeal, without seeming like you’re clinging or forcing anything.
Something like: “I’ve never felt this safe and comfortable with anyone before. Can I treat you to dinner Friday night to say thank you?”
The reason this would work is that it shows that you’re emotionally open to the Cancer man—a necessity before he moves things forward with you.
It also demonstrates appreciation, which is a Cancer’s weakness. All Cancers strongly desire being seen for their efforts.
And, it demonstrates generosity—a quality Cancers pride themselves in having, but rarely feel matched in.
Tip #3: Be Clear and Specific
Don’t underestimate how oblivious a Cancer man can still be even if you say “I LIKE YOU. WE SHOULD GET TOGETHER SOMETIME.”
The more specific you can be, the better.
Try to suggest a date on a specific day, and if possible, a comfortable location so the Cancer man really gets it that you’re not just being overly nice to him.
I know, it’s crazy.
But without being abundantly clear like this, he would still have room to talk himself out of believing you’re into him.
I hope these tips have given you some ideas to get things moving with the Cancer man and made you feel more confident.
Good luck, and let me know how it goes!
Frequently Asked Questions About Cancer Men
How do Cancer males act when they like you?
Cancer males act sweet, generous and attentive towards you when they like you.
They may be a little slow to take the next step or to ask you out, no matter how excited they are to be near you.
Don’t take it as a sign that the Cancer man isn’t totally obsessed with you if he doesn’t act overtly sexual towards you.
He’s just waiting for you to open the door first.
What makes a Cancer man chase you?
Showing a nurturing energy makes a Cancer man chase you.
He loves feeling babied and cared for, which means that you’re going to want to feed him, show concern for his problems and check in on him when you know he’s going through something.
Being vulnerable with him and showing trust makes him want to chase you because it activates his own nurturing side.
He’ll want to protect you, which is a real turn-on for him.
How does a Cancer man test you?
Cancer men will test your ability to be with them and accept them completely.
They’re highly emotional and need to know that someone can handle that without making them feel bad for it.
So a Cancer man will start showing you more of his emotional range in order to gauge how you’ll react to that.
He’ll also test you around other guys to see how loyal you are to him.
By that I mean he’ll watch your behavior and see if you’re flirty or signaling availability to other men in any way.
If he senses that, then he’ll back off.
If not, then he’ll feel confident to pursue you.
Do Cancer men get attached easily?
Yes, 100%.
No one gets attached as quickly and easily as a Cancer, man or woman.
The only thing is that getting attached has its consequences.
Feeling attached makes a Cancer man go into self-protection mode as much as it makes him want to share everything with you.
Until he feels completely safe with you, anyway.
What are Cancer men attracted to physically?
Physically, Cancer men are attracted to a wide variety of body types.
Don’t think you have to have huge boobs or an hourglass frame for a Cancer man to look your way.
Although that’s also awesome.
And so is a flat chest and no hips. It’s not the body, it’s the vibe.
They like something clearly feminine about you, whether it’s your style, your makeup or your features.
They tend to like long hair they can run their fingers through.
Just don’t fall for the stereotype that if you don’t have curves, a Cancer man isn’t attracted to you.
What signs will break a Cancer’s heart?
Aries because they end things suddenly when they’re over the Cancer.
Aquarius because of the cool, aloof energy. Even though Aquarians don’t realize how much they’re affecting the sensitive Cancer, and believe everything is fine.
Scorpio because a breakup with this sign is devastating for the Cancer, considering how soul-bonded these two feel with each other.
How do Cancers show they love you?
Cancers will show they love you by trying to take care of you better than you can even take care of yourself.
They’ll cook for you. Get you things you need from the store.
Buy you sweet little gifts to make your day and be your emotional support system when you’re feeling down.
If they show sincere appreciation and even get misty-eyed when you do the same for them, then you know they really love you.
Do Cancer men run from their feelings?
Sometimes.
But this is not a fault of yours.
If a Cancer man is running from his feelings for you, he’s got problems to work out that have nothing to do with you—you’re not doing anything wrong.
Unfortunately, when you’re dealing with a Cancer man who is unhealed from a toxic relationship, there’s not much you can do to make him face it if he doesn’t want to.
What makes a Cancer man miss you?
Reminders of the emotional safety a Cancer man felt with you will make him miss you.
So will remembering how well you took care of him.
Sure, seeing how much ass you’re kicking in life might give him a pang of regret over letting you go.
But it will be nothing compared to his nostalgia about your relationship.
This will motivate him the most.
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